Lauren Carman Evans

“We were really shocked to be having twins. I’m a Type 1 diabetic so I had a really difficult pregnancy. Charlie and Clementine came 7 weeks early and were in neonatal intensive care for a month. I love my job, I teach 1st to 3rd grade at a Montessori school between the Pacific ocean and the redwoods, and right when I was getting ready to go back to school I found a lump in my breast.”

laurencarmen-1“The doctors assumed it was from breastfeeding…but it wasn’t. I found out a year ago that I had the BRCA gene. It’s the one Angelina Jolie made famous. It’s a gene mutation that makes you have a very high chance of getting ovarian or breast cancer. It tends to be really aggressive and tends to happen when people are younger. I had planned to have a double mastectomy as soon as the kids were a little bit older. I thought if I did it before 40 I’d be fine. But I wasn’t, that lump in my breast turned out to be cancer.”

laurencarmen-2“I’ve got something called triple negative breast cancer. It’s stage 3 and it’s very aggressive. I just had my 3rd round of chemo last Thursday. I’m facing 6 months of chemo and a double mastectomy and some other surgeries. I try not to spend a lot of time feeling sorry for myself but I wonder why one thing after another keeps happening. It’s been really hard. I’m really scared. I just want to watch my babies grow up. I just met them you know? I’m so in love with them.”

“Thanks for sharing all that. I can’t imagine what dealing with could be like. I don’t know what you were like before this happened but you have an amazing inner glow about you. Your whole family does. You’re all so beautiful.”laurencarmen-4

“Thank you.”laurencarmen-5

“A really amazing friend of the family, Dixie Hall, who worked with my mom heard about what was going on and wanted to help. She found YouCaring and ended up going with them because they don’t take any fees from fundraisers. We’ve raised more than $20,000. People we don’t even know are giving $20 or $50. It’s amazing!”

“That outpouring of love from strangers seems like a silver lining. Are there any other positive things that have come from this situation?”

My parents are closer now and they get to spend time with the kids. My school community has also been reaching out. People are lined up to make us meals and come watch the babies. It feels like it’s coming full circle because I cared for their kids. I also get to be with my husband, Daniel, and spend more time with our babies. I would have gone back to work and they would have been in childcare…so that’s a silver lining.”

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“How has your relating with Daniel changed since all this happened?”

“I’m really sensitive and he keeps me upright when I’m about to fall over. He also knows when to tell me to snap out of it when I need to move on. He’s got a great sense of humor, sometimes I take things a bit too seriously. He’s pretty goofy.”

“What’s one of your favorite things about being a mom?”

“I love watching those two babies change. Their little personalities change every day. Not too long ago they woulda thought someone who has Type 1 diabetes couldn’t have kids. But I have two…and they’re both healthy!”

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“What’s your dream for your life?”

“To be a good mom. To be a good educator. I want to leave this world knowing I put in a lot more than I took out.”laurencarmen-3

To see more about Lauren’s story check out: https://www.youcaring.com/blog/2016/mother-talks-early-breast-cancer-detection

Dijon

October 6, 2016