Bethany and Craig
“I am beyond grateful for this beautiful man and my sweet child. They are my biggest teachers and the greatest gifts of my life.
From the moment Craig and I met, there was an instant soul connection and a sense that we had known each other before, a deep heart and soul resonance that felt like home. Since then, we’ve shared countless sunrises and sunsets, gone on epic musical escapades, frolicked on warm tropical beaches, and enjoyed the playfulness and joy with each other and my little girl. In knowing each other for only a year and a half, it feels like lifetimes. Lifetimes in which we’ve contemplated the simplicity and complexity of life, dropped into spontaneous meditations, and gratitude cries, while resting in nature and soaking in this magical existence together. We continue to encounter synchronicities that can only be explained through the understanding that we humans know very little about the mystery of life. But there is one thing I do know, and that is that we are both committed to LOVE. It is as though we see the world through the same pair of eyes.
“One of my dearest memories is of a day we spent together in Costa Rica. Our journey on a private island birthed one of the most beautiful and profound spiritual experiences of my life. Spirit was at play, and we were in direct communion with God and each other – held by Unconditional Love – together. Underneath the starry sky in the womb of glowing warm ocean water; we laughed, we cried, we played, we held each other. Words could never capture the true essence and alchemy of that day, and I want to honor its sacredness, but I will share that we danced and communed with Great Spirit – Divine Mama – God in a way our minds will never be able to fully comprehend. It was a perfectly orchestrated day that the two of us, and Divine Mama, will always share.”
“Our relationship is the full spectrum ~ beautiful, deep, profound, playful, sacred, and it is also the mirror in my life that has brought forth some of my deepest fears and insecurities – only to be met with the love to heal it all – to liberate it all. Seven years ago, I was transformed by the birth of my beautiful child, and I knew I would never be the same. When she came into my life, it was a remembrance of the magic and innocence of our natural state. With her joy and curiosity, she called me home. In the same way, Craig has called me home, and I am now being transformed by our love. He has been the ground for me to dance and rise into my truest expression. Never have I been seen so clearly and embraced so fully by another. It is an honor to love him and be loved by him. I don’t know what the future holds, but I welcome the mystery and am grateful for the discovery of true intimacy with my twin flame.”
“Before Bethany and I met, I had never heard of the term “twin flame”. I had, of course, heard of soulmates, which I very much believed in, but not twin flames. When Bethany and I met, we had instant soul recognition – I felt her heart right away and knew its depth and warmth. We met on a beautiful full moon night at High Sierra Music festival in Northern California. And although we wouldn’t become romantic until several months later, we connected deeply that first night and spent the whole weekend together. Although our backgrounds were very different – she grew up in rural, conservative Alabama and I grew up in liberal, suburban Seattle – we had an enormous amount in common. On that first night, we talked about shared experiences, spiritual teachers who had most influenced us, music we both loved and discovered that we had similar paths of healing and awakening. What struck me most deeply on that first night, however, and which has only grown stronger over time, is the uncanny similarity of our consciousness. We simply see and feel the world the same way. It’s as if this intuitive knowing, seeing and feeling we have is one and the same. We deeply feel into one another, but that’s just the beginning. We feel into others, the world and Spirit in the same way as well. Its like we are a mirrored reflection of each other.
A few months into our relationship, I began hearing and reading about twin flames. Here’s an excerpt I read recently that describes twin flames well.
‘Twin flames, also called twin souls, are literally the other half of our soul. We each have only one twin, and generally after being split the two went their separate ways, incarnating over and over to gather human experience before coming back together. Ideally, this happens in both of their last lifetimes on the planet so they can ascend together. So you probably haven’t had many lifetimes with your twin.
Each twin is a complete soul, not half a soul. It is their task to become more whole, balancing their female and male sides, and ideally become enlightened, before reuniting with their twin. This reunion is of two complete and whole beings. All other relationships through all our lives could be said to be ‘practice’ for the twin, the ultimate relationship.’
A few months into our relationship at a party, we were looking lovingly into each other’s eyes and I said, ‘It’s so amazing, we are totally on the same page. Actually, we are on the same word and that word is love’. Our first year together was incredibly magical, filled with profound experiences of love, connection, adventure and joy. There have been several times we have both shared peak spiritual experiences where we both had deep mutual recognition of Spirit and were also deeply aware of Spirit’s recognition of us. During these profound experiences, we saw, felt and understood exactly the same thing. The same transmissions of wisdom and love were felt in the exact same way at the exact same time. We would just look at each other in awe and reverence, with no words exchanged and intuitively knew of our shared experience.
Last spring, during a transformational festival, a beautiful writer and poet named Alex Warnow, sat down in one of the tea houses with an old typewriter and asked if we wanted him to write us a poem. I had known Alex for a while but he had never met Bethany and didn’t know us as a couple at all. But those of you who have been to transformational festivals, know that there is magic in the air and the veil between this physical reality and Spirit is very thin. He looked at the two of us, asked us a couple of brief questions and wrote out the following poem on the spot.
‘In a far distant corner of this dear galaxy, lies two stars, slowly orbiting each other. They had drifted closer over eons, inevitable partners.
Flirting again and again with playful flares, messages of fire erupting into the void.
Why, with a love like this, should they do anything but dance? Delirious, ancient, new as our fragile human forms, enjoying this moment, reveling in this desire.
We all root for a love like this, as surely as our sun graces the grass with its eternal freshness.’
He read us the poem and we both felt a rush of energy and gratitude go through us. Spirit was speaking very clearly to us in that moment, a beautiful honoring of our love and a confirmation that we are indeed twin souls.
Although our twin flame relationship has been incredibly beautiful, sacred and joyful, it has also been quite challenging at times. One of the other common characteristics of twin flame relationships is that they are very evocative and bring up all the shadow and wounding that still exists within us. In the midst of all the magic and connection, our deepest wounds and traumas have been evoked and triggered. This has been very difficult but I can honestly say that we are working through these wounds with a lot of love, compassion, and consciousness. Ultimately, even the challenge of facing our unconscious shadow and our deep pain and wounding is for the benefit of our healing and our awakening. We both know this and are very grateful for each other and the incredible blessings our relationship continues to bestow upon us. Bethany has a 7-year old daughter named Aspen, who is truly an amazing being in her own right. In only a little over a year, the three of us have grown quite close and have had a lot of wonderful adventures together. I love them both very much and am incredibly grateful for their presence in my life.
I love Bethany deeply – I love her spirit, which is wild, powerful and untamable, I love her heart, which is incredibly warm and loving and I love her soul, which loves and cares for her daughter, myself, her family and friends and for all people, animals, nature and Spirit with deep devotion, tenderness and fierceness. It’s truly an honor to be her partner.
We are holding hands and walking together into the mystery, eyes and hearts open and trying our best to hold everything that arises in love. It definitely isn’t always easy, but it’s the most sacred and profound relationship of my life.
“If you ever meet someone brave and powerful enough to walk with you directly through your most unconscious wounds and shadow caves—someone with the stupefying courage to see through the chinks of your armor and then help you take it off—love them. Because they have done something for you which is impossible to do alone. They will show you the treasure you’ve been seeking all your life, and they can do this because they aren’t afraid of your fear.”
– Jacob Nordby