“Do you remember what it felt like when you were getting to know her?”
Him – “Yeah, it just felt really natural. Like…warm and…I just felt like more of a man.”
“And how’d you feel?”
Her – “I felt like I’d been hit by a bus. I fell in love really really fast, but it was easy. It was kind of…choiceless.”
“And how long you been together now?”
Him – “Over 2 years.”

Him – “We met through an old band mate, she was here from Australia visiting her best friend. Her best friend was living with my old band mate. She was standing in the kitchen and we started chatting.”
“What’d you say?”
Him – “I don’t know. What did I say?”
Her – “I don’t know but we were laughing a lot. We only got to hang out 4 or 5 days before I had to go back-
Him – “And when I went to drop her off she said, ‘just to let you know, I’m really bad at staying in touch with people’ and I was like ‘what does that mean?’ and she said, ‘I’m just really bad at returning emails’ and I was like ‘no fucking way’. So I emailed her that day and she got right back to me. So I kinda kept her…yeah, I kept her. And we started Skype-ing, and then she came back and visited for a few weeks and then before too long came back and moved here.”

“What’s the most challenging aspect of your relationship now?”
Her – “It was me moving over, the amount of pressure of moving in after really only spending a month in each other’s company, even though we had been Skype-ing for like 3 months. It was a lot of pressure. And I had all the green card shit to get through.”
Him – “ I think we kinda got over all the tough shit pretty fast. We moved into together, and I didn’t really have a place to stay, so it took us a minute to settle-“
Her – “But now what’s most challenging?”
Him – “I think it’s staying connecting when we’re not in each other’s company. It can been hard to stay connected.”
“I was just dealing with that recently, what do you do to reconnect when you see each other again?”
Him – “I think we both realize the things that push my buttons, push her buttons so we’re finding ways to work around those things and be more aware. Just being able to look at a situation differently so you can connect and get over the bullshit.”
Her – “We laugh a lot. I think that’s a lot of the way we get back to each other. And a lot of touch. We’re very affectionate.”
Him – “And a lot of dirty jokes.”

“What’s your favorite thing about him?”
Her – “Before I came to America I was living in Thailand in this spiritual community and all the men were really trying to be men and there was all this talk about what it was to be a man. When I met Trevor, even though he’d never done any of that, he knew everything they were trying to learn just because of the way his life had been. He just had it, and I felt really safe. I trust who he is. Even when I don’t get it, no, I always get it. Even when it’s hard, I trust where he’s coming from.”
“And for you?”
“I think part of it is that comfort feeling, just feeling so relaxed around her. And part of it is the way she can surprise me. She can be so sweet and womanly, and then she’ll say something so gnarly and it’s amazing! She can snap into this raucous Australian mode. It surprises me and makes her very whole. A complete character.”